Oct

10 Things NOT To Say On A First Date

First dates are usually not an easy thing. You don’t want to look like a lie or stretch the truth nor neither you want to send your date running off to hail a cab before you have even ordered for a plate of rice. Basically, the thing about the first date is for you to learn and know more about the stranger sitting across from you and to see if there is any link between or connections between the two of you. It’s good to be honest on your first date. We don’t really believe there are any hard and fast rules when it comes to dating, and despite what movies would have you think, there is no such thing as the “perfect date,” so bear it in mind. Still these are the things you should not say;

1. “So I just got out of the Hospital“

Maybe you have some personal problems you’ve been working on. Perhaps you’ve been in therapy since you were 13 years old. Whatever the case may be, it’s probably best not to introduce your new romantic interest to your BIG, SCARY ISSUES, at least not yet. Everybody has problems, big and small, but the first date is more about showing off your personality, not painting yourself as a psychotic addict (even if you are).

2. “My ex is crazy.”

There’s a fine line between love and hate, but both are equally fueled by passion. If someone even mentions their ex on a first date, watch out, you could be entering into a three-way relationship. Brace yourself: drama ahead! Anyway, even if you are not done with your ex, keep it to your self. Your date certainly doesn’t want to hear anything about it.

3. “I would like to get married and have kids ASAP.”

Slow Down. Whether you’re a man or a woman, uttering those words automatically puts pressure on an already delicate, stressful meeting, not to mention the fact that it’s a foolproof way to scare someone off and fast.

4. “Who are you voting for?”

There’s a saying in the south about not bringing up politics or religion in polite company. Plenty of couples don’t always share political (or religious) views, and learn to make things work. But when you’re trying to make a good first impression, it’s probably best to avoid overly emotional topics in order to avoid a sparring match. (Look at it this way, if you become a couple, you’ll have plenty of opportunities to fight later!)

5. Can you pay for the bill? I’m broke.”

But common courtesy demands that the person who did the date should pay for the bill. Chances are, if your date has good manners, He/ she will suggest to split the bill into 2 so the both of you will pay together. Let’s face it, gone are the days when the guy must pay for the dinner. But no matter what the circumstances are, asking your date to pay the bill is a major turn-off.

6. “What’s your favorite TV show?”

C’mon, we can do better than that. Asking about hobbies and other interests can lead to great conversation.

7. Which University did you attend?”

Believe it or not, many people are not graduates. it’s probably better to ask something like, “Have you always lived here?” “How did you choose your career?” or another more general question that might lead you to discussing educational background. Again, it may seem strange, but for all kinds of reasons, a lot of people have negative knee-jerk reactions to this seemingly innocuous question.

8. “Can I take your picture?”

Creepy much? Try to avoid this, period.

9. “I’m poly- (fill in the blank)”

There are folks who are polyamorous (def: the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved); polygamist (def: the practice of marriage to more than one spouse simultaneously). Unless you met that person on a “special” site devoted to that kind of stuff, chances are your date won’t appreciate your open-minded ways.

10. “So would you come back to my place?”

Not everyone is old-fashioned about first dates. The right time to sleep with someone is up to you, but numerous informal polls, um, around the office show that when a guy propositions a woman for sex on the first date, she tends to get skived, and when a girl does the same, many dudes are likely to file her in the one night stand category. Double standard? Sure. And yes, some couples do have sex on the first date and there is nothing wrong with that. But I think you know what I’m sayin’…