Love Dating Game: Getting Her Number
So hopefully by know you have managed to strike up a love conversation and have managed to keep her somewhat engaged. Well Done! If you have failed to get off the starting block than be sure to read my article on ‘the Approach’, before continuing with this article. So now you are probably asking yourself ‘What do I do know?’ this is where most guys or men go wrong, and the reason for it is that they have no plan, or even worse they have no goal in mind. What is it that you wanted to achieve from approaching this girl? Seems basic, but you need to start with the end in mind. If you have no goal then you have no direction and that means no strategy, and ultimately no result.
The most important thing you must do is decide what it is that you want to accomplish from talking to women. Is it a date? Is it flirty conversation? Is it a phone number? Is it a one night stand? If you don’t know where you are going then you will never get anywhere. So, well before you have even left the comfort of your home you must know what is that you are after. By having a clear goal in your head you can naturally direct the conversation in order to lead to the goal.
Lets assume our goal is to get a phone number, we now must have a strategy that is in line with the desired outcome which is…her number. That strategy will include many things but first and foremost you must build Rapport. This is the key to getting everything you want and learning this skill takes time, but it involves many factors; the tone of your voice, posture, facial expressions etc. but as a rule of thumb, be confident and smile, show your intentions (not all your intentions). Ask questions about her and remember to listen attentively. Nod your head when you are in agreement and use words like ‘amazing’, ‘fascinating’, and continue to probe into her world. Women like to talk about themselves and they love men that listen…really listen. Try and find things that you can associate with and ask her more questions about it. Don’t interrogate, just be curious. If you have similar interests then comment about your experience, but keep it short and focus back on her.
Match her tone and body language by mirroring her moves. Don’t be a copycat but if she talks slowly, then talk slowly, if she is loud, then be loud. It will make her naturally feel at ease and open up to you. Remember that 80% of communication doesn’t even come from your mouth! Everything you are doing with your hands, your face, your body is sending signals. If you do these things your conversation will flow and she will begin to feel comfortable with you. Always remember to keep the end in mind…your goal!
Be complimentary, and be bold. A woman wants a man who knows what they want so make sure you are leading the conversation at all times and don’t go off telling her how great you are and about how wonderful your job is, she wants to talk about her, so focus and listen. Be sure not to over welcome your visit, as she may have friends who also want her attention, so get ready to make your move.
The final part is simple, you just have to ask the question. If you have done all things right their can only be one result…a successful one. You can set up the question by excusing yourself , something like,’I will let you get back to your friends, but before I do, could you just type your number into my phone? That’s it! Hand her your phone with a smile and do not say anything more. You must let her take what she has heard and make the next move. If you stumble or if you fail to say it with conviction or belief then it will not work. Be confident and ask the question. You will be amazed!
July 23rd, 2009 at 6:21 pm
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June 15th, 2010 at 5:18 pm
Yeah, I’m just not sure on this – can never make my mind up.