So when should you tell the other person you’re totally under their spell? I’ve read and heard other Relationships “experts” say that “I love you” should come only on the tenth date or after you’ve dated someone for four months. Personally, I think that is all bull shit. Excuse my language. Saying “I love you” is a very personal experience, and every person has their own different timetable for saying it. Some people say it right away with a new person, while others prefer to wait a while to be 150% certain that they truly love the person they are saying it to.

However, it is usually a bad idea to tell someone you love them on the first date or even second date. The person might think that you say it to everyone you date. And the truth is, on the first date, you don’t really know a thing about this person. The first date might have been great but there is a ninety-nine-point-ninety-nine percent chance that this person may not always be all well dressed, charming and sweet. Wait at least until you know more about the person.

If after thinking it through you are convinced that you are committed to her or him, mentally and emotionally prepare yourself for the moment. Easing into the moment by letting the other person know how much they mean to you and how they make your life richer, and speaking clearly while holding eye contact can make it a little less nerve-wrecking. However, the moment should not be choreographed to the T. Let a little spontaneity rule, flow with the emotions that come to surface. Some people find it easier to write a love letter instead. That way, they can pour out their heart’s content without choking in it. Just remember that sooner or later you’ll have to say the words to the person’s face.

But not all people have difficulty with saying ‘I love you. For some it’s kind of like habit like saying “thank you” or “good-bye” after you talk to them. And I do not necessarily think there is anything wrong with it. After all it might be the last thing that you ever get a chance to say to someone else.

Uttering those three little words like you mean them to somebody you actually deeply care for doesn’t only light up the other person’s world, but yours too. The key point here is to be sincere about it. Saying ‘I love you’ a lot is not an indicator of whether one really loves. Some people use it as a way to manipulate you – like getting into your pants or you bank book. It is important to pay attention to how what they say makes you feel and if they really mean it. How is the person saying it? Does it come out like they really mean it or does it feel to you like they are saying it because they think they need to? Listen to your gut feeling and do not try to ignore it because your body picks up on non-verbal cues that your head may miss. And, if you’re questioning if this person truly loves you, then maybe something isn’t quite right or the relationship isn’t working for you. This may sound like la-la-land cliché but it is true, when someone feels for you that much, they can’t fake or hide it!

People and especially women hesitate to say how they feel because they think they should wait for the man to say it first. And many times feelings never get communicated at all and the other person is left feeling unloved and unwanted. I do not think we should be afraid to say it before the man says it to us first. Sometimes explicit words are necessary, but more often, the manner in which they are said is even more important. An impulsive hug that says “I love you” may mean a lot more than words that are expressed insincerely.

Hearing the words “I love you” can come as a surprise to some of us. If it comes as a surprise, do not feel obligated to say “I love you, too” just because the other person said it to us. Simply be silent and accept the statement and then reflect on it. What does it means to you? Do you feel the same way for the person? And please, “I love you” should NEVER be followed with a “yeah, me too”.

“I love you” should be said only when you really mean it because when you tell someone that you love them, especially for the first time, it changes the way the person acts toward you or the way they even look at you. When you tell someone you love them quiet often the way it comes across to the other person is like okay, I love you now you have to love me back, or because I love you I want you to treat me in a certain way or now that I love you let’s take this relationship to another level…like get married. Men especially have a hard time reacting to being told “I love you” .

Don’t blurt out ´I love you´ just because you think it will get you some bed action, some cash flow or even a wedding band. You may actually get what you want, but when the other person gets to find out they’ll hate you for it. Then again your statement of love even if you did not really mean it might be taken seriously and you might actually get “I love you, too” back. Never underestimate the capacity of a human being to fool him or herself, to become obsessive, to fall in love with someone who has given no sign whatsoever that they’re even interested.

When working with singles, I often advice them to take a kind of different approach and an alternative to “I love you”. Instead of saying “I love you”, you might want to say “honey (??), do you feel loved by me?” If he or she says “yes, I feel loved by you” you can follow it with “how am I doing that?” Even if he or she says “No I do not feel loved”, you can follow the “no” with “how or what can I do to make you feel loved?” It changes the whole dynamics. You are no longer just expressing your feelings but expressing how important it is to you that he or she feels loved by you. This approach opens a door to more truthful and intimate communication on which to build a better foundation for you relationship.

It becomes about him or her and not about you. And isn’t that what love is really about?

Did you know that there are secrets of love that will help you get your man hooked? Are you at a loss when it comes to getting a guy to fall for you? Did you know that there are specific things that you can do to increase your chances in love? If a guy finally does fall in love, he falls harder than a woman tends to, because it takes more to get them to fall in love. If you follow these tips, you can get a guy to fall for you, and then he will be hooked. Here are the secrets of love.

The First Secret:

Be Unique. This seems like an easy secret of love, because you obviously are unique, but the trick here is to make him realize that. There aren’t as many guys looking for girls as there are girls looking for guys, so you have to do something that makes you stand out of the crowd. If you know a guy that you’re interested in, find out something that he likes, and let him know that you like the same things. You don’t have to lie; find something that the two of you really have in common.

The Second Secret:

Be beautiful. This starts with feeling beautiful, not necessarily looking just like someone else, so take the time to pamper yourself. Get a new hairstyle that makes you feel attractive. Splurge and go get a pedicure for summer. Try a spray on tan. If your budget is tight, then just get a new lip gloss and some body spray that makes you feel pampered. You don’t have to spend a million bucks, and you don’t have to look like a super model, but do something that makes you feel like a lady.

The Third Secret:

Be long-term relationship material. How do you do that? For starters, don’t jump into bed with a man. If you get physical right away, he won’t respect that, and he’ll be moving on to someone who he thinks is relationship material. If you get hot and heavy right away, he won’t be thinking about introducing you to his parents, and he probably won’t be thinking about what a great wife and mother you’d make some day. So hold off on the sex, and let him get to know the real you.

Every man’s desire is to have a woman.  Sure, we may be interested in  how they look, youthfulness and gorgeousness, but it all means the same thing — We want to be with a woman. They’re one of the most precious things life has to offer. Now, why is it more appealing to hook-up with younger women?

There are some obvious and evident reasons why we get attracted to the younger, fresher, childlike types of women in our lives. Well, they’re young, fresh and innocent! What more can an older guy ask for? Younger women are always far more exciting, thrilling and overwhelming to be with.

But there’s good news for you too: younger women find older guys quite attractive and striking as well. And the explanation may totally blow you away — in a good way. It’s not about your bank account that entices and tempts the ladies, even though you hardly ever see hot and cute young girls with impoverished old fellows. Ok, let’s go straight to the point.

Younger women appreciate and give extreme value to your maturity, skills, knowledge, wisdom, experience and patience. You’re at the prime of your life and that alone is intriguing and stimulating their imagination. These girls also get tired keeping up with their usual high school friends, immature boys and sleazy young jerks. Having an older companion can be quite refreshing. Hey, these girls deserve only the best, and there’s a great possibility for them to find inner bliss with older men.

So celebrate your maturity, knowledgeable and love your worldly self! Let your years guide the way in satisfying and rewarding yourself through these young hot girls — your maturity is a turn-on, I tell you!

So always show a mature behavior and let wisdom guide you when ever you want to hang out with these young hot ladies who you admire.