Relationship Tips

Do you get nervous on a first date? We all do. The more you like the woman, the more nervous you are.

We tell guys on our radio show all the time that the best way to get over nervousness is control. Self-control, that is.

Have you ever been on a date with a woman that you were not that interested in? Remember how you felt then? You were cool as a cucumber, right? You were cool because you did not care if you ever saw her again.

You have to figure out a way to invoke those kind of feelings in yourself with a woman that you are REALLY interested in.

Here are some more helpful tips on how not to be nervous on a first date.

1. Remember that no matter how much you are attracted to her, she is a STRANGER. She might have “the look” as a late eighties song stated, but that is all you know about her now.

2. Dovetailing on tip 1, that she is in fact a stranger, you do not know what kind of girl you have. Could she be the flexible, nice, giving, highly interested woman with integrity that you seek? Sure. She can just as easily be a structured, hardheaded, mercenary as well. The point is, you just do not know so do not get overly nervous thinking you have finally met the “right one.”

3. Even if you have met “the right one” it is still going to take TIME to get to know her. Some guys want to have the ring on her finger just after the appetizer arrives. Remember, it takes approximately 10 dates or 2 months for you to seriously consider her to be your girlfriend and it takes another 2 years to see if you want her to be your wife (after she is your girlfriend). During that whole time we are watching to see if we have that flexible, nice, giving, highly interested woman with integrity.

Bottom line? Guys a lot of times put way too much into a first date. A first date has the sole objective of getting a second date and that is only if the lady laughs at our jokes, pays attention to you, lightly touches you at least 1 time during the date and acts interested in you.

Remember guys, dating is a process and many times that “process” leads to a dead end. Relax, have a good time and keep in mind that she is likely just as nervous as you are on a first date.

By Jeff M. Stevens

We want you to enjoy dating, connect with some wonderful ladies, and find your life partner. Below you will find some dating tips to help you put your best foot first, make a great impression, be comfortable, and have a great time dating.

1. Look Your Best. Take a shower, shave, and wear a freshly ironed shirt. You don’t have to be a super stud, but women will notice when you take the time to smooth over the rough edges. Paying attention to your grooming, your clothes and your overall appearance will score you points for sure. Showing up looking less than polished does not make you look casual and cool, it really makes you look sloppy – not a good thing for that important first impression. Please trim your finger nails and your nose hair.

2. Be Honest. You may be tempted to embellish the truth to make you sound more interesting, but don’t do it. If you end up hitting it off, and you have additional dates, it will be very difficult to keep your story straight. This will be very embarrassing if you can’t remember the details. Add to that the fact that it is probably pretty obvious when you do embellish, and that is just a big turn off. Be proud of who you are and don’t feel the need to compete or outshine your own self with a made up persona.

3. Shine a Light on Your Sense of Humor. Great laughter, gentle intimate giggles, and a shared fun time, are the best parts of early dating. When you connect with someone through your sense of humor, you can really make a connection with them. It can also ease everyone’s nervousness. Just make sure your humor is not hurtful to others, even making fun of people you encounter – like the waiter – can be a real turn off. Laughter can also be something that is very memorable about your date. She will remember the great fun you had as you shared many laughs and warm hearted conversations.

4. Be Authentic, Be Yourself. Simply put; don’t try to be someone you’re not. You will be more comfortable when you are being yourself. And, the best news of all – your new relationship will be much more successful when you are dating someone who loves you for who you are. You don’t want to try to maintain a facade or made up persona of someone you’re not.

5. Maintain a Little Mystery. Yes, it’s best to be honest, but it is also beneficial if you maintain a little bit of mystery. Don’t tell your date everything about you, and don’t be available all the time. Keep your individual life and your freedom a little bit intact. You will be more attractive to women, if you have interests and activities of your own. Be nice, be considerate, but also be a little bit of a surprise – you don’t have to be a completely open book on the first date to keep their interest. In fact, it’s best if you are not.

6. Enjoy Dating. And finally, remember to have fun. This is what it’s about after all. Relax and don’t stress about asking women out, going on dates and finding out who you like. Don’t worry about being perfect, don’t over analyze everything you do and say. If you are not having a good time, your date will know it and she will also probably not have a good time. It may be your first and last date if she doesn’t enjoy your company, and if you are stressed, you may not be good company. Probably the best advice to help you enjoy dating is this… don’t put too much pressure on yourself.