Relationship Tips

So, in short, they were “made for each other” but he made a baby to another.
After 13 years, you are married with someone else, also with child, but you get an idea to intentionally make some jealousy because you feel like “not wanted”…
Would you pick “him” for a coffee alone to make your partner jealous, saying that some things have changed over time and that you feel xyz… And want to hear the reason for breaking up…?
I think the real deal is that hate turned into feeling sorry about something, but both are emotions (doesn’t matter good or bad, still emotions) which are supposed to be irrelevant for years now, right?
Another question is why is it “important” after so many years to know the reason?
Am I right that she was for all this time, not (completely) “mine”, or you would stand on my wife’s side?

What do u think about this? Share your own thought!!

Your relationship may have started out with excitement, passion and great hope, and back then there was lots of love and trust to go around but now there is a surge of negative energy generated when you are together that can be hard to ignore.

It’s time to take stock of your relationship. Here are just ten warning signs that tell you that you are headed to breaking -up.

1. The relationship has no clarity and one of you seems resistant to such clarity because somehow that means he or she has to step up and deliver or be really open about his or her intentions and motivations.

2. One of you seems to be demanding too much attention, expects too much from the relationship, is bossy, self-centered or focusing on instant gratification rather than long-term happiness.

3. Whenever you have a conversation, it is mostly about problems in the relationship: what is not going right, or who is doing or not doing what etc. instead of more light-hearted and happy conversations.

4. You pick away at each other with criticisms and nagging, and little problems and everyday complaints are magnified to the extent that you end up complaining a lot with one another or getting your back up and shutting down.

5. Anger is expressed immediately and with little hesitation, one or both of you react quickly, directly, and emotions end up flying all around causing more chaos. The other negative effect of this is making your arguments everybody’s business.

6. You quickly and frequently feel quite frustrated with each other and don’t feel that strong, intimate connection you had in the beginning.

7. One or both of you harbours fears about the loss of the relationship or betrayal and this sometimes leads to using underhanded manipulation and tactics with each other.

8. There is a certain feeling of inequality between the two of you and one of you feels (and rightly so) that he or she is making too many sacrifices for the other and for the relationship and ignoring his or her own needs for happiness.

9. One or both of you feels insecure when either of you connects with other people or expresses independence by doing things or going places without the other.

10. Your sex life is sporadic and one of you always ends up feeling used or less than satisfied.

At this stage of your relationship, it is very easy to slip into a love-hate relationship, but as easily as you can plumb the depths, you can also reach great heights together if you make the effort and time to work through the reasons behind the problems and allow the original attraction you had for each other to express itself positively.

Always remember that, you have come together to learn something about your own deepest fears, needs and feelings, and this may not always be pleasant!