Relationship Tips

Most women go through their entire lives never learning how to get what they truly want from a relationship. And, many end up losing their relationship simply because they didn’t know what to do or say to save it. This is an absolute mistake! Why? Because if you don’t gain the knowledge and the wisdom to create a magical relationship, what makes you think it’s going to be different the next time around? Chances are it probably won’t!

You see, the basis for a magical relationship begins and ends with you. That right! But, you’ve been so busy trying to transform your partner into Mr. Right that you’ve forgotten to look in the mirror! While you’ve been consumed with the futile task of transforming your mate into a compassionate, caring, loving, understanding and romantic man, you’ve neglected to ask whether you possess those qualities. When you get right down to brass tacks, we attract relationships based on the sum of who we where, who we are, and what we believe. Therefore, if you want to attract a magical relationship, you must become it period!

Examine your own beliefs! What fears and insecurities are preventing you from evolving into a confident, loving, kind and caring woman? Do you have a fear of intimacy or abandonment? Do you have a difficult time trusting others? Or, do you feel inadequate or unworthy of having a magical relationship? Do you really  completely and unconditionally? Bottom line, you are what you think you are, and that is what you’ll attract. If you don’t love yourself, how can anyone else love you? Love is giving in a relationship, but only when you can first give it to yourself!

Begin by describing all of the qualities that you’d like your partner to possess, then compare them to your qualities. Don’t make excuses! Be honest with yourself! If you continue to blame your partner or others for the void that you have in your life, you will continue to attract more of the same. Once you have made an honest, comparative analysis, then you can uncover the fears and insecurities that are preventing you from evolving. I have listed them below:

Fear of intimacy

Fear of control

Fear of abandonment

Fear of inadequacy

Fear of control

Low self esteem

These self-limiting beliefs are held in your subconscious mind and limit you from getting what you really want in life. And in this case, what you really want is a magical relationship. But, the relationship of your dreams has eluded you and is currently slipping from your grasp because your fears and insecurities have nearly driven it off the cliff! Without question, negative, self-limiting beliefs are the direct fundamental cause of a relationship crisis, but the fears and insecurities that accompany them are the primary drivers. As an example, Sandy meets Bill, and it’s a match made in Heaven! It’s pure bliss! In fact, Sandy and Bill believe they are soul mates. Bill is kind, loving, passionate and romantic and attends to Sandy ’s every need. Well, Sandy and Bill get hitched in what seems to be a magical relationship. But after a few years, the magic starts to fade and the problems begin. It turns out; Sandy has suffered from a fear of abandonment most of her life because her father left at the tender young age of five. And, Bill suffers from a fear of rejection that was perpetuated by his alcoholic father. As Sandy ’s insecurities begin to surface, she requires more and more attention. She begins complaining that Bill hasn’t been giving her the attention he once did. Unrelentingly, Sandy continues to demand more and more from Bill until he reaches the breaking point. Bill senses that things are going awry, and decides to end the relationship before Sandy rejects him completely.

Because Sandy failed to address her fears and insecurities, she relied on Bill to fill an emotional void. “She, who relies on others to fill a void in her own life, builds a house of cards on shaky ground.” You see, self-love is the rock-solid foundation for every magical relationship. But, it’s virtually impossible to embrace self-love if self-limiting beliefs are standing in your way.