Women are different one from another. For a particular woman to be sexually attracted to you and want to be sexually intimate in a deep and meaningful way, she has to feel (often intuitively) that her individual sexual needs will be met by the sexual experience. She may even be attracted to you in all other areas but if her sexual instincts don’t pick up what she’s looking for sexually, forget about making love with her. She may keep you around for a “good friend” because you meet all the other criteria for a “great lover” but that’s as far as it gets. And if you’re in a relationship/married and you fail to “measure up sexually”, you’ll get too many “I’m not in the mood” and all the other “criticisms” of your sexual abilities almost every single time you try to get all hot and groovy.
So what turns her on? Again, women are different one from another, but there are some common needs that almost all women seem to share and things that turn them on big time:
1. A man who makes her feel beautiful just for who she is — in and out of the bedroom. One who does not just think “my woman is beautiful”, but makes his adoration known verbally and non-verbally.
Often times women do not just know when to get out of a failed or failing relationship either because they refuse to read the writings on the wall or because they decide to play deaf and dumb. One cannot help but wonder why? Lots of times the guys do not come out to say a relationship is over but they give signs which a friend of mine, Kenneth says the woman is supposed to understand. Such signs he said range from not calling and not taking calls from the lady and in the extreme, avoiding the person totally.
Amazingly however, most ladies do not react to these signs as expected. Take for instance a school mate I ran into recently who was recounting her experience with her “boyfriend”, the boyfriend is in quote because personally, I think the relationship is over and she just doesn’t want to see it. Well maybe I am wrong but how do you explain a situation where a lady claims to be in a relationship, they both reside in Abuja and yet see each other once in two weeks, did I hear you say he is busy with work? Oh! please wake up and smell the coffee, no man can be too busy for a woman he loves. Not only that, this lady does most of the calling and guess what, he does not always pick these calls and would not bother to return them and you know his excuse, he either left the phone in his car or at home while going to work. The last time I checked, every phone has a way of recording missed calls which our dear lover boy would have seen and returned if he so desired. So, you see, he is tired and wants you out.
Tonia, another lady said, “I was in this very wonderful relationship that each time I closed my eyes I always saw myself in a white gown and the guy in black suit or as the case maybe grey, which means “the altar”, but after about two years into the relationship, the guy came home one day really depressed and when I tried to question him on the problem, he said he had a dream where his dead mother was warning him to leave me or face an early death.”
Anyway, Tonia’s boyfriend later got married to another lady shortly after the supposed dream, she said. Wasn’t the guy trying to say something?
How about Tinuke whose fiancé, Henry after six months told her he had been wondering if marriage was for him, because according to him, his parents’ marriage was a disaster and he didn’t think he could handle it. Concerned Tinuke, instead of reading in-between the lines started counseling her fiancé .
“I even introduced him to my pastor who was supposed to help him overcome the marriage phobia, but before anybody could say Jack- Robinson, Henry ‘s wedding invitation cards were out which devastated me,” she lamented.
For Chioma, her case was different and I consider it the worst scenario, this is because the guy became very critical of her, nothing she did was ever good enough, all of a sudden.
“He was no longer pleased with my eating habit, my choice of clothes, music and every other thing, and although I tried to change just to please him, I couldn’t achieve much, because he still left me,”she said.
Apparently the love was gone and you know what? Chioma didn’t only lose Preye her boyfriend but her self –worth, because after several months of listening to such criticism you would definitely be affected. Now why let it get to that point when a guy who was once crazy about you begins to complain about everything, why don’t you pause and think carefully, he may be telling you something you know—like I am tired .Because believe me, Chioma would have been better- off if she read the writings on the wall and moved on.
Another bad case is when you let the guy blame you for the failure of the relationship. Take this case for instance, Sheila is in a relationship, she has tried everything within her power to make it work, she cooks for him, washes his cloths, cleans his house whenever he lets her visit because often times he does the visiting (wayo, wouldn’t you say) gives him money whenever he as much as complains of being broke, yet this boyfriend sees her only when it is convenient for him, at times once in three weeks or a month depending on how lucky she gets. And when she tries to find out the reason, the guy blames her, saying she isn’t doing enough. Sheila is now to blame and what does she do? She intensifies efforts to please him. Sweetheart there is nothing you can do when love is gone.
Not forgetting cases of abusive relationships, where instead of the guy going into the ring to punch his fellow man and if possible win some money or even a medal he turns you into a punching bag? What are you doing there, isn’t it time to get out? Research has shown that love is selfless and accommodating, so believe me when a man loves you, you won’t have to break your back or kill yourself to get his attention. Ever heard the line from a song that says ….The best things in life are free?
Ladies, don’t sweat it, be yourself and love will come to you but please be alert and read the writings on the wall. Know when to bow out, you know what they say, it’s good to leave when the ovation is loudest. Don’t wait until you lose your self- worth as it could be very dangerous. Research has also shown that several ladies had to undergo rehabilitation of some sort to regain theirs. You don’t have to get there.
I have often heard the dating scene being compared to a jungle. Similar to a hunting environment, it’s filled with both predators and prey. Just like in a jungle, you can be snared by a woman. Now this isn’t a bad thing unless you encounter a woman who can make your life a living hell.
What do I mean?
Well it’s simple. When it comes to dating, there are certain types of women who can cause a variety of problems for guys. If you’re able to avoid them, then your dating life will become smooth sailing.
So when you’re out in the “dating jungle”, make sure you avoid these 5 types of women:
1- The Drama Queen
While all women can get emotional, there are some who take it to an extreme level. If you date ‘The Drama Queen’, your life will be filled with conflict, arguments and constant appeasement.
You can detect a drama queen early on by her strong emotional reaction to the slightest provocation. So when you’re dating a girl, look for signs that she “freaks out” at the smallest incident. If you see evidence of a Drama Queen then run (fast) for the door.
2- The Bridezilla
Marriage is a goal for most successful relationships. But there is one type of woman who is thinking about marrying you from the moment you meet. ‘The Bridezilla’ is a woman who has her entire life (including yours) planned out. In fact, before you even think about taking her home for the first time, she’s had your entire wedding party picked out.
The Bridezilla can be detected by her longing stares at a girl’s engagement ring or when she drops hints about establishing a ‘permanent commitment’. So if you think you’re having a fun fling and she wants a husband, then you should move on.
3- The Debbie Downer
‘The Debbie Downer’ is the type of women who is depressed no matter what happens around her. Life with this girl will be a constant battle to make her happy. The problem is nothing you do can make the Debbie Downer have fun or relax. In fact, her negative attitude can actually affect your life.
You can tell a woman is a Debbie Downer when she doesn’t show excitement about anything you want to do. If she would rather spend every night sitting on the couch and watching reruns, then you might be around this type of woman. If you stick with her, she’ll snare you into her depressing life.
4- The Gold Digger
Kanye West was REALLY accurate about how there are many women who only date for money. ‘The Gold Digger’ will take your money, use you and will leave you broke with your credit card maxed out.
Fortunately, The Gold Digger is easy to spot. During the first few minutes of meeting her, she’ll be overly concerned about the car you drive and what you do for living. Avoid this woman because she won’t be interested in your personality or what you’re really about.
5- The Succubus
According to legend, ‘The Succubus’ is a demon who takes the form of a beautiful human female to seduce men for sexual intercourse. In the dating scene, the Succubus is a woman who can quickly destroy your life. Simply put, this type of women is pure evil. She will use you, cheat with your friends and will leave you in a quivering mass.
The major problem is the Succubus is hard to detect. Your best bet is to look for patterns of unusual cruelty. If she seems to revel in the pain of guys or laughs at the misfortunes of others, then you might be dealing with The Succubus. Unless you carry around holy water and a cross, then you’ll have little protection from the likes of her. Your best bet is to get away as soon as you can.
If you want a happy dating life, then you should avoid certain type of women. By being able to quickly identify the 5 types of women that I described in this article, you’ll discover that it’s easy to find quality women who are fun and exciting.
If you first cannot get a woman interested in you enough to want to learn more (curiosity) then you will never have the chance to inspire attraction. With that said, how can you first get a woman to notice you? Is it a mere chance of being her “type”? Hardly. Here is how to get her interested and more important CURIOUS about you.
How to Make a Woman Interested in You – And Keep Her Interested
1. Body Language
Your body language conveys the type of man you are. It shows whether or not you are secure in yourself or not as well as if you are congruent with what you say. Body language is the device which women look at to judge your true value as a man.
What you must do is educate yourself on the type of characteristics you must convey and HOW to portray it using your body language.
2. Pre-selection
An ultra easy way to spark interest in women is “pre-selection”. This is where you arrive to a club (or any other social event) with beautiful women already with you. The other women in the room will see that you have SOMETHING of value to offer because there are other women already by your side.
The women you go out with don’t need to be girlfriends or “friends with benefits”. They can just be normal friends. The key thing to remember is this…the more beautiful they are, the more interest you will generate.
3. Man Up
Live in a reality where you man up. In other words, act like the man you are supposed to be rather than a socially conditioned wimp. Be an alpha man and make decisions for your ENTIRE group. Lead them to a place to sit down and decide which other venues to go to.
Take the leadership role and women will notice this. Remember that sexy women only want the leaders….never the followers.
Learn to Speak the Language of an Alpha Man…
If you want to take your game to the next level, then you must learn how an Alpha Man REALLY communicates. The sad thing is that most men continue to struggle with women even after they learn all those fancy “routines”. What they don’t realize is that women place VERY little value in your words and TONS of value in your nonverbal language.
We’ve all met someone pretty. At first sight, they are gorgeous. Anything can catch your attention; nice hair, nice legs, smooth moves on the dance floor or a voice like a symphony flute. What most of us don’t expect is that this seemingly perfect catch may not be right for us at all. This is dating matching, and it’s hard to make it work all the time. But don’t give up, there are plenty of ways to improve your odds, and it’s based on much more than pure physical attraction.
You can’t tell a person’s personality by the clothes they wear or the way they dance. This is called an image, and it is really a useless way to look for that special someone. After all, something that is pretty on the outside could be rotten on the inside!
So what should we do? Stay at home all day? Well, we could, but that’s no way get the right dating matching. Instead, look for people in non conventional places. It is easy for someone to throw up a pretty image at a single’s bar or restaurant, but what about when they are buying groceries or walking the dog? By broadening your search off the beaten path, you just might get lucky and find someone who is good on the inside and the outside.
If you don’t want to rely on pure luck, you could try another strategy. Online dating sites are a great place to meet singles. A site like itsjustlunch.com is a great solution. They can match you to someone who meets all of your criteria, and then schedule a simple, stress-free meeting with your new best match. Look around. Your best chances may be right under your nose. Don’t give up!
Women are different one from another. For a particular woman to be sexually attracted to you and want to be sexually intimate in a deep and meaningful way, she has to feel (often intuitively) that her individual sexual needs will be met by the sexual experience. She may even be attracted to you in all other areas but if her sexual instincts don’t pick up what she’s looking for sexually, forget about making love with her. She may keep you around for a “good friend” because you meet all the other criteria for a “great lover” but that’s as far as it gets. And if you’re in a relationship/married and you fail to “measure up sexually”, you’ll get too many “I’m not in the mood” and all the other “criticisms” of your sexual abilities almost every single time you try to get all hot and groovy.
If you first cannot get a woman interested in you enough to want to learn more (curiosity) then you will never have the chance to inspire attraction. With that said, how can you first get a woman to notice you? Is it a mere chance of being her “type”? Hardly. Here is how to get her interested and more important CURIOUS about you.
We’ve all met someone pretty. At first sight, they are gorgeous. Anything can catch your attention; nice hair, nice legs, smooth moves on the dance floor or a voice like a symphony flute. What most of us don’t expect is that this seemingly perfect catch may not be right for us at all. This is dating matching, and it’s hard to make it work all the time. But don’t give up, there are plenty of ways to improve your odds, and it’s based on much more than pure physical attraction.